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error...There is no video of Alexander reading. He would not let me take it after I wrote that yesterday and I did not edit what I wrote.
He said he did not want to just yet. He wanted to play and do other stuff first.
Maybe later today!! Alex readingHere is a video of Alexander reading a story. He loves to read and will read to us allllll day long if we let him. He is improving steadily and it seems to come naturally to him. This goes hand in hand with his writing. He will sit and write a whole story about what he just did, just to do it. He loves havign the ability to get his thoughts on paper. I think it makes him proud to see that he can think something and write it for others to really be able to read it.
This is my favorite age to read writing of too. He is so phonetic is kills me. Some examples of his spelling are as follows:
Oliveu=Olivia
boling=bowling
chresher=treasure
toez=toys
throo=through
sowee=sorry (yes he still prounounces his r's like w's or l's at times)
gowing=going
colerd=colored
Julinana=Julianna (he still prononces it that way when he slows his talking down to sound it out)
jimnatix=gymnastics
sooper=super
chesd=chest
Of his 80+ sight words he has about 60 or so he can spell without error. They are words like have, went, out, class, that, the, from, you, is etc...you know the basic words all kids learn at his age.
One that suprises me that has yet to stick is they. He reads it corectly but constantly spells it thay.
Another suprise to me was that in March he had begun to pick up on the silent k and he now has it mastered. It it never seems to fumble him up.
Next we will have to work on the all elusive ph...
However, I think I will have to wait until he has better articulation to work on the tr, ch, and those r's!!!
Then with the soon to be loss of his front teeth we may have to give up hope on pronouncing anything correctly for a few months!!! Those babies are loose and will most likely be gone by the end of the summer.
Good thing we are going to be doing pictures in a few weeks!!
7/2/2008 I have a great idea.... (again please overlook the font issues.........)
Try telling your children the truth!!!! Or telling them NO once in a while.
I am getting sick and tired of hearing parents lie to their children. Whether it be on purpose or not. It is still wrong. It seems as though the parents I know who do this regularly are trying to protect their children from emotional pain of seperation, comfort them and/or to not make them upset/angry etc.
WHY!!!!
How is it good to tell your child that you will be early today to bring them home when in fact you are not......and do not intend to try to get out early? How does this instill trust? He/she will not only be upset when he/she is picked up at the same time but he/she also learns that what you say is not true.
What does it harm for her/him to know that he/she will be picked up at the same time as they typically are? A stop in the crying before the parent walks out the door is the only benefit I can gather. However, the crying stops soon (if not immediately) after the parent walks out the door regardless of if there is a "supposed" early pick up or not. So what does this lie accomplish? Easing the guilt of having to go to work and leaving a crying child. Serves no purpose for the child but only for the parent.
Why tell them who is going to pick them up when infact you have no idea? You can say I will see you today after work. Then you are telling them a truth. Otherwise when mommy arrives and Daddy was supposed to you do not have a child who is upset and does not trust what you tell them. Especially if the child is old enough to retain thatt type of information. I think most two year olds can do this. It does not take too may lies to teach a child not to believe what you say.
Another Question: Why lie or negotiate instead of saying NO? Since when did it become outlawed to say NO to a child? It is something that seems to be gaining more and more popularity. Why??? I know I was told NO and I am sure that most of you readers were told NO by your parents. Do you all feel that you had a horrible childhood? People go so far out of their way to not say NO that they end up getting walked all over and are at the beck and call of their children, not just toddlers and babies. They (the children) expect to be able to negotiate every single decision. I have seen this and the mothers look tired and stressed by motherhood not happy and enjoying their children. Maybe because they have created demanding little beasts with no appreciation. Can you imagine these kids as teenagers? How are they going to have respect for a paretn if they feel that they are incharge of what they can and can not do? There needs to be limits and the parents are supposed to be the ones who set them.
It has been recently discussed on some television program that the reasoning portion of the brain is not fully developed until around 25 years of age. How can one expect to make any really sound decisions at 13, 16 or even 18 for that matter. Think of yourselves at that age....how many of you made a stupid decision? I bet all of you. I know I did. That is why it is important for the parent to guide and help them learn to make sound decisions. If you do not begin to guide them at a young age you will most likely face some pretty difficult challenges in trying to do so in the teen years, after they have been used to doing whatever the heck they want!!
Here are some links regarding the frontal lobe development in teens.
I say NO and my child moves on because he/she knows that no matter how much yelling, crying etc there will not be ice cream before dinner, or whatever it is that they want that is not appropriate at the moment. I began at the ripe old age of 1 teaching them the meaning of no and that their tantrums would not work. We move on and they never mention it again. Sometimes I will say they can after X,Y and Z, but not always. Sometimes I just say not today and that is accepted without a "but.." or anything. Some times I jsut say NO, period.
It is comforting to me to be able to go into a store and not have to deal with tantrums or disobedient children. They stay with me and do not complain about the duration of the trip. There is no running up and down the aisle or yelling in the restaurant. They get ansy (of course!!)but I am able to pull them out with reminders of what we are doing later or of how they should be acting. I do not bribe them either. Of course Alex will sometimes ask if he does well can we go to the toy store to get a something. He is trying to be bribed I think. Little does he know that to be bribed the reward comes before the behavior
 so to go to the toystore after he is good is not a bribe at all it is a reinforcer!!! HAHAHA I got him!!! When we do go to the store to have them pick something out is is never mentioned before hand it is just done and they are suprised. Of course if they are bringing money from their piggy bank or birthday money they know well in advance and I always save that stop for last!! I do not want to say my children are saints or anything--but they are!!!! No, they have moments. Luckily none of thier moments exceed what a good timeout can't handle. They do not get aggressive, mouthy etc. Not yet, and hopefully not ever--fat chance, eh?!?!. I hope that by disciplining them and teaching them what expectations are early will instill it for the future. I am fearful that all these children who are being lied to on a dailly basis or are never told no will not have the ability to regulate themselves when sent off on their own.
I would love to see a child who was brought up in this environment for his/her 18 years plus and see how he/she does in college and all. I would love to hear they are great and no worse for the wear.
Which is probably going to be true, they will be fine and normal. Most likely they will come around to normal around 27 or so after they had to "sow some oats" in early college to figure out where their limits should be.
Of course, then those children who are repressed from any freedoms, and have an all NO family policy and are completely controlled by his/her parents will do the same and "sow some oats".
Two vastly different parental styles but most likely the same outcome. A bumpy ride for all involved in the early college years--or early twenties. Maybe--Maybe not.
Middle of the road is where I intend to have my parental style fall. I allow for a lot of freedoms, with limits. I expect well behaved and respectful children who are still children. Playful and goofy at times. A child is a child afterall and needs to be that way at times. I also want them to be able to be apart from me and keep in mind the expectations that I have for them still exist. The only way to teach this is to allow them to practice it.
So far so good--never a bad report when a playdate occurs. I only hope this middle of the ground style will lead to no "sowing of oats" when they enter college. That is a bumpy road I do not want to ride on.
But will if I have to.
I could go on and on about this pet peeve of mine. It just drives me nuts to hear it and see it so much. I can't imagine what the parents are thinkign by giving the children control over everything from A to Z and being such a wishy washy parent. Why? Maybe if someone can give me a compelling argument for this type of parental style I may not be so against it. It just seems (to me) soooooo wrong.
7/1/2008 Better get Crackin'It is July 1st.
I only have 24 days to begin AND finish a quilt for a birthday present.
I should not have procrastinated soooooo much.
6/30/2008 Our Motorcycle tripThis past weekend Brian and I went away to Vermont on the motorcycle. We headed out at 6pm on Friday after work was completed. With thunder clouds looming and big down pours coming every few moments we left during a break in the rain.
Fortunatly for us we were driving right out of the storm and into the clearing. We were drizzled on for less than two minutes on the entire 4 1/2 hour trip to Vermont. On schedule!!! We immediately hopped in the hot tub to relax our bodies for the day ahead.
The next morning we drove up the islands on lake champlain and right to the canadian border then into New York. We drove down the coast of lake champlain on the new york side. It was gorgeous. Of course it was cloudy and there were predictions of rain and thunderstorms all day. Lucky us we did not get any rain. We were dry. It really was cludy but the sun was trying to pop out and it was keeping the temps around 70. Of course I had on a tank top, long sleeve shirt, lightweight sweatshirt, leather jacket, a heavy duty motorcycle rain coat, jeans leather chaps, and heavy duty motorcycle rain pants---so I was comfortable. Opps, I forgot the helmet. Should be a no brainer, but I guess there are people out there who would go without so I will mention it.
We hopped on the ferry to take us across the lake and back into burlington. It began to rain as we were awaiting the ferry ride. It rained the entire ferry ride and until we parked the bike in a nearby parkign garage. We went to the vermont brewery and had some late lunch. It was fantastic--pub style food yummy and heavy just what we needed since we had not eaten since 7:30am. We ordered a sampler, 6 3oz tastes of beer to share. Some pretty tasty bear--coming from me (a non beer drinker). We picked our favorites and purchased two half gallons to bring home and share with family and friends.
While we spent the two hours sitting in the pub eating we watched it pour outside. Since we had the bike in the garage we did not have to rush to get our gear on and leave. As we left the rain turned into a drizzle again. We drove in that for about 30 minutes then we were back in to our room and in the hot tub. It was pressing on 6:30pm so we relaxed and had some wine then got ready for our 7:30 dinner reservation.
The next morning we were keeping an eye on the forcast and a storm was pulling into vermont from New York and then another one was taking over our home town. We needed to head out to keep ahead of one front and behind the other. We did it. We had partly sunny if not full sun the entire way home. We made a few detours on the way home. One to check out Ben and Jerry's factory and get the kids something. Another just a nice side road off the beaten path. Another in North Conway to eat and have some walking around too. We arrived at home and were here only aobut an hour when the rain came crashing down.
All I can say is we had luck on our side this weekend when it came to the weather. For some reason we were able to do the vast majority of our riding in partly sun and dry weather. We were prepared for full out rain so it was a great relief to not have it.
6/27/2008 something new...It has been brought to my attention that the vidoe stream is only viewable by me. so I embedded here....
As you see at the top of the page is a video stream of Julianna reading a story. It is the angry story she picked out at th library. A girl named Sop[hie gets really really angry.
She loves it.
I will try to get a different video a couple times a week ofthe kids.
6/26/2008 I am in the market...for a new wardrobe.
I have been going through my clothes recently. It seems like I can never find anything to wear. Not for lack of items but for lack of desire to wear anything that I have. It seems like everything has been over worn. I have several items that I like to wear and some that I wear for lack of anything better to put on.
The problem is I really do not spend a lot of time, energy or money on my clothing. Since I started running a daycare I figured I really do not need to purchase as many clothes a Brian or others who are out and about as much. I do not want to ruin anything with the finger paint, the baby food, the snotty noses and the all around messes that inevitably end up on me during the course of the day.
When I go out in the evening or on the weekends I am finding that there are only a few articles that I wear. I also have noticed that a lot of my clothes are old. Some as old as mid-college or even late high school. I know sick isn't it!!!! I have a winnie the pooh and tigger tank top that I got when I was @17 and I still wear it at times. Only as a pj top. I put it in the trash the other night when I was becoming disgusted with my clothing. Do not get me wrong I have purchased clothes in the last few years. A couple shirts and pants/skirts here and there, nothing of great substance. I need to do more than that. My shape has not changed all that much so I am able to fit into shirts from way back when and some pants too. I think mostly of what I have replaced are the pants. I have several skirts from way back when.
Brian keeps up on his clothes much better. He really needs to because of his job.
I need an over haul. I need to go in my closet and take out the clothes that have been moved from my moms house, to college, to dottie and pauls house, to apartment after apartment, to our first home in Windham and then here without being worn once. Yeah, it is like that box of tapioca pudding on the shelf in my cabinet. It keeps moving with us but never gets used. Amazingly never spilled either.
I am going to begin the task of cleaning out my closet and two dressers--next week. When I have that complete I can look over the stuff I decided to keep and see what I need to purchase to make my wardrobe complete. When it comes right down to, it the real reason behind my not purchasing much new in the past few years has nothing to do with money and everything to do with time. I need to have time to go in try on stuff and decide. I need to make the time.
I began my some of my wardrobe replacement the other night. I went out to purchase a new bathing suit. I am not a bathing suit kind of person anyhow. I put it on maybe two times a year. I am not a lounger in the sun and do not like to run around the yard in a swimsuit. But I needed something that did not make me look like an old lady!! Especially since my friend keeps inviting us to go over to their pool and if I go without Brian I need to get in the water with the kids. The two I had were purchase between children. One is now a little to small and the other just horrible. I gained some hips and weight (about 5lbs that just wont leave!!!) with Julianna so my suits did not do me justice!!! I found two I really liked and could not make a decision so I purchased them both to bring home and have Brian give me his opinion. He did not haelp me any--he said he loved them both so I should keep them both. I did. I also got a couple pairs of pjs (summer nightgowns) and undergarments (which also need an overhaul!!) me I used this site:
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Today is not one of your lucky days! There are 211 days till your next birthday In 1975 there were approximately 3.1 million births in the US. Garnet is used as a power stoneSome lists consider these stones to be your birthstone. (Birthstone lists come from Jewelers, Tibet, Ayurvedic Indian medicine, and other sources) Emerald, Rose Quartz Your birth tree is Elm Tree, the noble-mindedness The moon's phase on the day you were born was waxing gibbous. 6/25/2008 one more Speedy updateWe recieved a call yesterday morning by the man trying to get a hold of Speedy. He said he finally got him in the trap--after trapping many of the other cats in the ares. I was exited!!!
Being stuck here with 7 children I was not able to just pick up and drive over therer to get him. I was going to walk the children over but the man suggested I not. He said speedy was really upset and it may be difficult to walk with him in the cage. I imagined myslef trying to navigate the experience and thought better of it as well.
I called my neighbor and asked her to do me a favor and drive on over there. She did without hesitation and Speedy was in our garage in less than 5 minutes.
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